TLDR:
- It may be fun at first to drive your exigence with the necessity to have the last laugh and rub it on the faces of your doubters, but odds are you’ll eventually no longer see any light at the end of the tunnel.
- Rather than going through the seven stages of grief, frame your mindset in such a way that your fuel is internal, such as the drive to prove you and your doubts wrong and impressing yourself in the process, rather than seeking sustenance externally.
- The endgoal should not be framed around such externalities, but rather internal objectives such as seeing out the outcome you wish to achieve.
Finding the drive to keep you constantly fueled
Depending on your situation and environmental factors, when you’re in the midst of chasing or creating something that while in your mind it’s pictured as grandeur, no one you know is willing to throw their weight behind your vision.
And when that is the case, it’s way easier to become demotivated and give up for good.
So how can you find the fuel to keep on going when this is the case?
What comes to mind may be to have the last laugh and rub it on their faces, and though that may certainly be sufficient fuel at first, you may find yourself no longer seeing the light at the end of the tunnel if you continue experiencing consistent failure.
While that is a part of the process, it is hard for one to digest with such a mindset, going through the motions of the seven stages of grief.
Instead, frame your mindset in such a way that your fuel is something sourced internally, such as the drive to prove you and your doubts wrong and impressing yourself in the process by recognizing that you were capable of achieving what you set out to do and then some, rather than seeking sustenance externally.
By developing a great level of discipline and constantly putting in the hard yards for the sake of achieving goals that surround solely around what you want your endgame to look like afterward, that is when ultimate freedom will come.
Ever since the pandemic, I’ve regularly been pursuing some endeavors that piqued my curiosity on the side, with all but one still well intact. It wasn’t too long ago that the framework I had in mind was to prove everyone I knew who’d doubt me wrong, but after talking to certain people about the personal goals I really had, it hit me that I had to change my thought process.
My endgoal shouldn’t entirely revolve around proving people who forget about it the next day wrong, but rather to satiate my soul by proving to myself that one can be intellectually curious and do what it is they want to do with their life on a daily basis, rather than be bounded to the chains of societal expectations and what is deemed “the right path,” for there indeed are people like us in the world who have achieved the outcome of what it is we desire ourselves.
And that, is the perfect motivation for when you have zero support.